Remote learning due to the pandemic has been stressful for many kids because “going to school” looks very different now. They are not in their classrooms with their friends and teachers.
When kids get stressed or are struggling, whether they have trouble in focusing, are worried, lonely or anxious, it’s common for them to say things like “not doing homework or even not going to school” – but bear in mind that there is a difference between shutting down and not doing work or ‘going to school’. If you are seeing this kind of behavior in your child, first of all know that you are not alone. You may be wondering if this will pass when the crisis is over.
This is where we come in with our Youth Etiquette and Character Education Programme. I’ll ask you to take a closer look to figure out whether your child is Complaining, Avoiding or Refusing because there is a huge difference and your child may be telling you different things you should acknowledge.
- Look for patterns (does your child refuse to go to school on certain days, times or with certain kinds of work?)
- Ask the educator/teacher if they have noticed similar reactions or have any idea why
- Share what you are seeing and seek for help
- Talk with your child (like “I need your help to understand why you’re so upset about school and school work” or “what could make you feel better about ‘going to school’ ” etc..)
- Keep track on your observation to get some clues about what’s going on – is it a complaining, avoiding or refusing?
To mention some few scenarios:
Complaining – Your child doesn’t feel like doing Maths because he/she doesn’t like it or it’s boring but when you hold your ground, they’’ll reluctantly do it.
Avoiding – Your child doesn’t want to do Maths because it’s too hard, they cry and find it difficult but with your assistance or a little help, they’ll sit down and make the effort.
Refusing – It’s time to do Maths and your child is no where to be found and when found there’s a complete meltdown or complaints about stomachache, headache and so on. This is an extreme reaction mostly caused by anxiety and fear and you can’t talk them into doing it but you can figure out whether it’s temporary or a consistent behaviour.
Should you be interested in a WEBINAR on this topic, please reach out to me https://www.jmamoni.com/contact/